If you think it can't happen to your kid, listen
up! 1 in 42 children will become lost, missing, kidnapped or run away this year.
While stranger abduction is relatively rare, it still happens. Most abductions
are perpetrated by some-one the child knows. Knowing the top 10 lure techniques
(as identified by the FBI) that are used by child predators will better prepare
you to talk openly to your children and teach them what key phrases to look for
and how to stay safe.
10 Top Lures Used by Child Predators
Helpless Lure - This is the person who needs help carrying boxes to his car,
or to find a lost dog, or lost child.
children that adults don't ask kids for help in any way. Adults should ask Adults
for help or directions or whatever they want.
2. The Promise
Lure - This is when the predator promises to take the child to Mommy or Daddy.
Or perhaps promises a surprise or candy in the car.
Tell children that they are NEVER to go with anyone unless Mom or Dad has instructed
3. The Gift Giving Lure - This is the predator
who gives the child candy, toys, money or other gifts.
Tell children NEVER to accept gifts from anyone unless you've received permission
from Mom or Dad. This includes money from Grandpa (especially when the child is
told to keep it secret). Tell children that we don't keep secrets in our family.
The Messenger - This is the predator who tells the child that "Mommy
was in a car accident" and the child is to go with them. Or "Your Mom
called and asked me to pick you up today."
Tell children the names of the people you have entrusted as emergency back
ups. Remind them NEVER to go with anyone unless Mom or Dad instructs them to.
The Leader (Authority Figure) - This is the policeman, priest, teacher
or other authority figure who uses their position and suggested authority to win
the child's trust.
Prevention: Tell children not to go
with anyone no matter what they are wearing or who they are, even if it means
that they might get into trouble. (Many authority figures tell kids they will
be in trouble, or threaten to hurt Mom and Dad if the child doesn't cooperate).
Friendly Lure - This is the nice friendly predator who engages the child
Prevention: Teach children not to talk
to any adults they don't know unless their parent is with them.
Playing Games - This is the predator who plays "touching games"
and makes the child promise not to tell. Or other 'games' that the child feels
Prevention: Teach children to listen
to their instincts. If something makes them feel funny in their stomachs, they
are to stop, run and tell.
8. "Too Cool" -
This is the person who the child looks up to as cool. Perhaps a friend's older
sibling, or a relative or a neighbor who has the latest video games.
Teach children to listen to their instincts. If someone asks them to do something
they know is wrong or feels funny, teach them to stop, run and tell.
The Magician Lure - This is the predator who seemingly magically knows
the child's name or other information about the child.
Don't put nametags on the outside of your children's clothing, books, book bags,
10. The Power Predator - This is the scary predator
who just grabs the child off his/her bike and throws them into the car.
This is the only time a child should fight, scream, kick, bite. Tell children
that if they are on their bikes and someone tries to take them off, they should
hold the bike as hard as they can while screaming "You're not my Mom/Dad!"
few more essentials:
Make sure your child knows his or her complete name, address and telephone number
with area code. It seems like a lot to remember, but this is one of the most important
child safety tips.
your child how to dial 911. Most cities send the police whether or not a request
is made, so let your child know this is for emergencies only, and not a game.
Establish a code word for situations when your child is to be picked up by someone
other than a parent or regular caregiver. Predators have tricked kids into telling
the code word, so remind your child never to tell anyone.
Teach your child that if it feels weird it probably is, and regularly remind the
child that he or she can talk to you about anything.
Don't lose sight of your child in public places, especially when very crowded.
Remind your child that if he or she is lost to find a store clerk or police officer
and wait with that person until you or the police arrive. The child shouldn't
go with someone who offers to take him or her to you unless it is a uniformed
that child predators look like regular folks.
If you must leave your child at home alone, remind the child to never open the
door for anyone that you have not approved.
Teach your child to always walk with someone.
If your child is in a dangerous situation, he or she should yell for help ("this
is not my Mom/Dad") and run to a trusted adult. The child should know to
never to run into an uninhabited area.
It is important for families to talk about child safety. Keep an open dialogue,
and take the time to give situational quizzes about all safety issues. You can
keep this light and fun without scaring your child by mixing up questions like:
"What would you do if you woke up and smelled smoke?"
followed by "What would you do if someone pulled up in a car and asked
you for directions?"